Career Vs. Stomach

When I was brushing up yesterday’s, my eyes stopped at one article, the topic was about supporting men in their career. Now-a-days, the concept gets changed and now the theory has a different and very inner meaning. Earlier it was a saying that, the best way to reach a man’s heart goes through their stomach, but now the concept is absolutely vice verse. Now theorists are saying that the best way to reach men’s heart goes through their career. 


Dr. Dobranski, a prominent psychiatrist of United States of America propounded this theory recently. But being a regular reader of Times of India and a follower of psychology, I really don’t prefer it. Isn’t it something gender discrimination? Psychology revitalizes and gives a shape to a man’s thought. But I think the notion of the modern psychology has got changed a bit. Especially in a country like India, the relationship between a man and woman is hugely different. It’s totally a North Pole and South Pole difference.
Generally people say that, these days’ women are also getting the equal chance as like a man. But my question is, is it really true? As far as I know the survey report of United Nations, still India is a nation which is ranking at the top level in girl feticide, girl infanticide, maternal health issues and many more. I’m just naming some of them. There must be several cases which are not getting space in the newspapers. Still lot of families is there which are burning in the issue of dowry and they are forced to throw their girls in this severe problem.

Everybody knows law, but how many of them are following the exact law. We are the culprits, we break the law somehow or the other in order to provide ourselves all kind of facilities. After reading this article, what I felt is that men are not the only creature on the earth who should get support for their career from their better halves. Women should get the same option. If a woman is behind a man’s success then why can’t a man behind the success of woman. Whether it’s a girl child or a boy, they uses name of father in the schools and colleges, but why they are not liable to use their mothers’ name.

Few years back, Supreme Court of India gave the verdict that a child a use mother’s name in the schools and colleges if he/she is willing to use. This is the age of “live together” and “single parent”. They men and women have the same authority on their child. Even a mother should be educated enough because she is the person who should educate her children, then why all the credit goes to fathers or the male fraternity. Female fraternity should get half of the credit as they are educating their kids and undergo the severe pain of delivering her child for hours.

Honestly speaking, I’m a hardcore feminist and I don’t agree to this theory. Female are not the creatures who are going to support their dream men every moment, men are also supposed to support their wives at the time of need, not by considering them as the weakest sex on earth, but believe them as the power which gives birth to another life on earth.  

Children: Gift of God

Today I watched the movie named "Little Children" by Todd Field. In a word this was an outstanding movie. Kate Winslet (Sarah), Jennifer Connelly (Kelly) and Patrick Wilson (Brad) did a wonderful job. Though the movie was released in 2006, but I watched it today. I got a wonderful opportunity to enjoy this movie. Though this movie was all about how people indulge into an extra marital affair and how they commit something wrong. But children are the integral part of a person’s life. Many at times the couples just think about their own happiness and forget about the children and take a wrong decision.
The huge step like extra marital affair comes into an individual’s life when something is missing. It may be due to children, responsibilities and duties for other relationships and issues like maladjustment between the couple. When the couple crosses the age limit of 35 or so, many at times they suffer from the adjustment problem with their spouses. They may think that the spark which was there in the life is now gone. But it’s nothing like that, if there is a very good understanding between the couple then this kind of problem can be avoidable.

Life is not just confined in the job, family, relations, children and other commitments. Enjoyment and exploring about new things are very important. People may get bore by engaging themselves in these issues but solution is to take a break. You can take a break, but it’s totally up to you that in what way you want to take the break. It may be a small family trip to a beautiful destination or it may be a normal stay with family at home.

In a scene when, Kate Winslet is talking to other women about a piece of literature, she supported the way of going out of the archetypal ritual of a married relationship and told to maintain the way the central character of the novel was behaving. Life can make you understand many things. When people face it they gains the experience but without facing the problem you won’t be able to realize the limit of the issue.
A woman always strives for love and care from her family, but this is also important that she should gout of the conventional way of life and should explore her qualities and behavioral intricacies. According to the feminism theory, Elaine Cicoux commented that, when a man can go out of the conformist rules and can enjoy with a lady, then why don’t woman do the same. She is also a human being and has the same authority to do that. When Kate (Sarah) went out of her so called married relationship and bought a swimming costume to show off her curves to Patrick (Brad), she realized a woman who is hungry for a sexual need.

She did what she wanted, but she comprehended that she is doing wrong and suddenly when her daughter run away and she was finding her, she understood that she’s her mother and she is the creator for her future. When her baby is with her then she is nobody to ditch her and gift her new father. She decided to proceed with her daughter and left Brad. On the other hand, when Brad was trying to practice sports and lost his sense, he got his spine fractured. That was a very touching dialogue by him, “Call my wife”. Though he was also in a plan to leave his wife but suddenly he understood that his injury stopped him to commit something wrong. If Brad would have got married with Sarah, then they would have been a happy couple, but was it sure that their kids would have been happier. What about Kelly who used to love Brad immensely. Everything could be topsy-turvy but some mishaps are good and changed everything in everybody’s life directly or indirectly. So I learnt that if you want to explore yourself, then obviously go for it but never take any wrong step which will ruin everybody’s happiness.